Tori Spelling's Rocking Bikini Body

Are only skinny women allowed to rock a bikini? If you ask Tori Spelling, she’d be quick to say no!

“Spoiler Alert: Yep! I’m wearing my BUMP PROUD again in a bikini so if you don’t want to look then leave my site now!” said Tori Spelling on her website according to ABC News.

Not surprisingly, a lot of Spelling’s fans had an issue with her showing off her baby bump in a bikini.

“Too much showing. Not suitable for a pregnant mom with a seven-month-old.”

“Ewww. She’s pregnant! Cover that bump up! No one wants to see that!!”

I’m really fumoxed as why people have a problem with a woman exposing her pregnant belly to the world. There’s no reason why a pregnant belly needs to be hidden.

From experience I know that when I’m pregnant I feel more comfortable in a bikini rather than having some horrible spandex stretched across my expanding middle. I also feel freer of bikini body issues when pregnant because I don’t judge myself so harshly as when I’m not pregnant but just soft around the middle.

Lay off Tori (and all the other pregnant ladies and less than perfect-bodied amongst us) and let her rock her beautiful belly as she pleases.

Moms Posing Nude

People reports: Jenny McCarthy Speaks Out About Posing Nude at Age 39.

Bravo for McCarthy being brave enough to strip down after having a child. The last time she posed for Playboy was nineteen years ago.

"Why should only 20 yr olds be considered sexy?" McCarthy says. "Let's (hear) it for the MILFs."

I think it’s great to celebrate women’s bodies of all ages and sizes. I have a feeling though that McCarthy’s body will be quite perfect looking in the “accustomed” way.

What I’d like to really see are some mothers posing nude who don’t have perfect bodies. Some “real” Mommy bodies with wrinkly bellies and stretch marks. You know what? Those bodies can be sexy, too…

How Dare Aishwarya Rai Not Lose Weight Fast Enough for Her Fans?

I never thought I would say that I would take the American media coverage over another country’s, but I am now.

Aishwarya Rai is a famous Bollywood actress and a former Miss World considered by many in India as being the most beautiful woman in the world. Well, until she gave birth that is.

Rai gave birth a mere six-months ago, but apparently she should have snapped back into shape already. It’s her duty as a beautiful person.

According to the Sydney Morning Herald a commenter said, "She is a Bollywood actress and it is her duty to look good and fit.”

Another added: "She needs to learn from people like Victoria Beckham who are back to size zero weeks after their delivery."

It seems that in India there are very strong opinions about the roles women should play and how they should look.

"There is a glorification of motherhood in India and Indian cinema," said cinema professor Shohini Ghosh. "But people are confused because they don't know whether to glorify Aishwarya in her new motherhood or lament that she is not looking like a runway model."

This seems to be an issue that many people are confused by when they don’t look at women as people but rather as vessels to carry out certain roles in society that fulfill their needs.

It is not a woman’s responsibility to look a certain way to please others. Until we all get that sunk into our brains in a very deep way we will be battling this issue.

How do we reach people trapped in an old world mentality that who we are as people is what matters, not what we look like?

Is Snookie a Fat Bully?

So interesting to really see celebrity moms’ personalities come shining through so clearly when talking about their babies.

Nicole "Snooki" Polizzi explained to UsMagazine how her baby will definitely be a “Jersey” baby meaning the poor child will be forced into Guido or Guidette fashions soon upon arrival.

But it’s another comment she made regarding Jessica Simpson that made me cringe: "I would die if I were her size," Polizzi said.

Umm…why is it that pregnant women who gain more weight than others are seriously considered as being wrong? If we can’t lighten up about our bodies and other moms even during pregnancy, what hope do we have for normal body acceptance?

Good gravy! Every body is different and beautiful. Didn’t we learn this when we were kids? I can understand us all having our deeply entrenched mucked-up ideas about body image, but isn’t that something we usually either hide or talk about in hopes of healing it?

Are we really still at a place and time where we think it’s funny to make jokes about peoples’ bodies? Doesn’t that kind of fall into this whole category of bullying, which I thought people were against?

Hilary Duff Feeling Good About Her Body Postpartum

I’m going to have to agree with Perez Hilton on this one—seriously, people are going to talk bad about a woman’s body after she had a baby three weeks ago?

Hilary Duff says: "I read comments on my Twitter page about how I'm waddling into pilates and I go, 'wow, that's a really mean thing to say. I just had a baby three weeks ago!' There is a little bit of pressure but most of it comes from me." 

It’s no wonder that so many women have body issues when we feel the need to lash out at others to make ourselves feel better.

Celebrity Momsters are placed in the unenviable position of being in the spotlight where they get to absorb all our own self-hate.

Duff explains: "Right when I really started to show, I would look in the mirror and wonder whose body that was! But then about a month later, I just felt really proud that I had a body that could do what it was doing. It is incredible what your body can do. You can appreciate all of your imperfections because you have a beautiful baby who came from you and all that you went through."

I have always felt the most forgiving to my body when I was pregnant. It was the one chance as a woman I felt it was okay to let it all hang out in public and really feel proud.

I do feel good about my body now even though I am not at my thinnest or strongest. I really want to learn how to feel the way I felt when I was pregnant, every day. Just beautiful and perfect as I was.

Why do so many women have a hard time loving who they are in the moment?

Jessica Simpson and Khloe Kardashian Are Not Fat!

What is with all the fat shaming going on in the world?

We’ve got media dissing Jessica Simpson left and right for being too heavy…while pregnant!

Yes, we all know the numbers of how many pounds the average woman should expect to gain while pregnant, but everyone is different.

Can we seriously not even let pregnant women gain weight?

And then there’s Celebrity Momster Kris Jenner, who calls herself a momager (manager/mother).

She’s been busy telling her daughter Khloe Kardashian that she’s fat.

Café Mom’s The Stir reports:

In an interview with Cosmopolitan, Khloe comes right and says that her mom calls her "fat."

She’ll say, "Oh, you’re a little too fat right now." If she were just my manager, I’d have fired her right then. You can’t talk to me like that.

So why is it okay for her mom to talk to her like that? We've seen before on the show how much it bothers Khloe, so why doesn't Kris stop and see her beautiful daughter through the eyes of a mother instead of scrutinizing how she'll look on film? I imagine sometimes all of the Kardashian girls just want a mom who's a mom, but it doesn't seem like Jenner is able to put aside business to be one.

When are we ever going to be able to move beyond our society’s representation of women if we can’t break out of the rhetoric that keeps it alive?

Does anyone else have a problem with all this fat shaming?

Rock It, Demi Moore!

I’ve never really felt any strong emotions for Demi Moore, but after reading about her Harper’s Bazaar interview on E-Online, I have great respect for her.

Most actresses of a certain age usually seem highly concerned with their looks and their image to a point that they are willing to do and say anything to convince their fan base that they are not only beautiful but fully self-confident and fabulous.

I feel like Demi Moore has opened the door to real honesty about the plight of being in the spotlight.

"What scares me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me."

This quote blew me away because I can relate to it so well, as I’m sure many women can.

This was how I lived a great part of my younger life. There was this great fear that I was somehow broken and unlovable.

Now if even a famous, wealthy, beautiful movie star can admit to feeling the same thing, perhaps we as a society can finally stop and say, hey, there’s something very wrong going on here that women today feel this—even someone who many would think should be immune to it.

So I say, Rock It, Demi Moore, for your honesty.

Do you think someone like Moore talking about her feelings of being unlovable can open a dialogue for society?

Suck It, Hypocrisy and Guilt!

Plastic Surgery Blog reports that actress Denise Richards feels hypocritical in promoting her daughters’ healthy body images because of the work she has had done—breast augmentation. She wishes she had not had the surgeries and blames them on her lack of self confidence.

“I often times feel like a hypocrite with my daughters when trying to teach them to have a healthy view on beauty and body image. I’m in a business where looks and weight do matter,” she wrote on iVillage.

I applaud Richards’ courage in admitting the hypocrisy, a conflict I experience within myself. I often find myself encouraging my daughter that looks aren’t what matter, but I am faced with the dilemma of how important looks were to me at one point of my life.

I know there will be a day when my daughter will learn of my past that was centered around beauty, but I hope that the model I am setting now accurately represents how I truly feel: the most important goals in life are not outer beauty, but self-love and acceptance, expression of individuality, a sense of integrity in everything we do, and the development of close-knit relationships.

Hopefully, through the example I set as I live forward, I will teach my children that loving who we are, inside and out, is the most beautiful thing in the world.