How does Octomom, Nadya Suleman, fare as an actress and mom?

Orange County News blogger Josh Dulaney covers how others really feel about Octomom in Porn Stars Review Octomom's New Film, andHer Parenting Skills.

It seems porn star Amber Peach felt the need to weigh in on not only Nadya Suleman’s porn acting abilities in her new masturbation film from Wicked Pictures, but her mothering skills, too.

"This is a woman who had children she knew she couldn't take care of, not by accidentally getting pregnant, but on purpose, and people's issue is that she did a porn. There are many porn people who are also great parents. People are acting like her doing porn is what makes her a bad parent, saying things like, 'What are your kids going to think of you when they get older and find out?' My question is, 'What are those kids going to think of her when they get old enough to realize she had them with no way to take care of them either because she hoped to get a reality show or because she's...crazy, or both?'"

Amber Peach makes a great point when she explains that there are lots of porn actresses who are great mothers. There’s no reason why one’s occupation should have anything to do with other areas of one’s life.

Dulaney also quotes porn star Paige Little on the aftermath of working in the adult entertainment business: "Eventually the job offers and money will not be there," she said. "You will be left with needing to justify to yourself why you chose that path and be able to live with it. The porn industry is littered with the shattered lives of those who could not."

I think this is the biggest struggle for people who have chosen to work in the adult industry. We must find ways to integrate our pasts into our present lives without guilt. I hope that Suleman will be able to move forward with joy and faith in herself no matter what she chooses to do.

Nadya Suleman to Strip

TMZ and every other celebrity website today are reporting on Nadya Suleman’s upcoming stripper performances. Octomom will be performing at T's Lounge in West Palm Beach, FL, from July 11-15.

While most headlines are all touting Octomom’s becoming a stripper now, it’s not really like that. She’ll be doing two shows a night for less than a week. I don’t think that really makes one a stripper. She’s obviously just stripping for promotional reasons for her porn movie. I don’t think we should expect to see her doing this as a new steady gig.

At this point in Suleman’s life, I can only hope that she does indeed feel good about what she is doing. If she feels confident and is having fun with her new image, then power to her. There is nothing wrong with her choice if she has come to terms with her own self and choices and feels empowered by the role she is playing.

I hope that she will find everything she is looking for and not let the naysayers get her down.

Celebrity Moms Setting What Kind of Example?

Clearly there’s some misunderstanding amongst celebrity moms.

Instead of putting down other moms, we should be helping each other out.

Nadya Suleman felt the need to point her finger at another mom, Patricia Krentcil, the mom accused of bringing her daughter into a tanning booth.

According to TMZ, “Octo, fully clothed, said she doesn't feel that Patricia Krentcil should lose her kids, but she does feel Child Protective Services should step in to give Krentcil some parenting tips.”

Of course, TMZ does not help by shortening Nadya Suleman’s already questionable nickname to simply “Octo,” but is Suleman just joining the naming party?

And if what Krentcil says is true, that she would never take her fair-skinned daughter tanning, then does what she does (or overdoes) to her own body have anything to do with what kind of mother she is?

Just as I would ask, does what Suleman does to put food on the table have anything to do with her parenting abilities?

Is there a way for mothers to lend support to each other without the need of tearing other mothers down?

Are You a Mom or a Mouse?

I’m really getting perturbed by silly headlines that provoke readers with the juiciest bit of info possible.

Yes, I know. It’s media and that’s how it’s done. Yes, I’m a writer and I try to write catchy titles for things, too.

But TMZ’z Octomom: I'm Buying a DUNGEON WithMasturbation Money is a tad misleading. In their “interview,” or should I say ambushing, of Nadya Suleman as she goes for a spray tan to prep for her masturbation video, they push her to say what they want.

Ever the intrepid reporters, TMZ focuses on the fact she says she wants a dungeon for her kids, which she explains as a house somewhere safe and in a gated community.

And today we are seeing Time magazine’s provocative cover proudly displaying: Are You Mom Enough? along with photo of mom, 26-year-old Jamie Lynne Grumet, breastfeeding her son.

I think moms should be on notice—you are being judged and provoked. Every step you take.

Everett Maroon sums it up nicely on his blog post, Mother Surveillance.

Octomom's "Porn" Film

I didn’t expect the Octomom porn film to happen so fast.

Last week Nadya Suleman admitted she might reconsider doing porn after the tale of her property being foreclosed and her bankruptcy claim came to light.

Today we have photos of Suleman on set for her shoot last week.

"My first shoot was amazing," Suleman told the Huffington Post. "Such a learning experience for me in so many ways. I don't think I could have asked for a better crew to work with. They were so patient and willing to teach me. I owe a lot to Wicked Pictures contract star Jessica Drake; she opened my eyes to a whole different world of self-pleasure that I could have never imagined. They made me look so glamorous, and for the first time in my life, I felt beautiful and sexy. I'm very excited for it to come out!"

I think Suleman has taken a very public and clear stance on what is important to her. Her children. I know this may sound insane, but she is doing what would make her the money she needed to put food on her kids’ table and a roof over their heads.

Is this a career that’s right for all moms? Obviously not.

But this woman has been through a lot, regardless of what judgments people make. Suleman is trying to provide for her children. As long as she is comfortable with what she is doing, who are we to say that it is wrong?

Octomom Nadya Suleman Reevaluates Porn

The latest Octomom news is that Nadya Suleman has declared bankruptcy.

But that’s not the headline getting the most attention today: Suleman has also wavered on her no-porn stance now that she is in more desperate straits.

According to Us Magazine: “The controversial mom said she'd consider starring in a pornographic film for the right amount of money. "If the opportunity comes up I'll be the first to admit: I'm gonna eat my words!" said Suleman.”

You may remember Suleman posed topless for British Closer Magazine a few months ago, but said she would never do hardcore porn.

"I won't touch other human flesh," Suleman explained. "The only flesh I'm touching is my own. I would never, never accept anything. I will not lose my grip of my deeply indoctrinated morals and values."

She elaborated: "Every choice we parents make is going to significantly affect our children for the rest of our lives. It's going to haunt them forever. I have to be the ultimate positive role model."

While some critics may be quick to point out that this makes Octomom a hypocrite, I’m not ready to jump on the bandwagon.

Oftentimes porn is a last ditch decision when all other forms of making money have failed. Suleman is in a unique position where she needs large amounts of money to support her family. Her getting a job at McDonalds is not going to help her situation.

If doing porn is a way for her to earn the money she needs and she feels okay about it, then I say power to her. From her comments though, I am concerned that she does not feel empowered about the decision.

I hope she will consider all her options before she makes a decision she might regret, but ultimately, she may decide to renegotiate her values and “morals” when it comes time to provide for her children. I imagine this is a decision that many other moms have needed to make. When it comes to our family, we often can rise above our critics and our conflicts to provide for our children.

I wish her the best luck in coming to the best decision for her and her family.

Nadya Suleman's Troubles Continue

In the latest Octomom news, Nadya Sulemon is the center of an investigation into her children’s welfare.

TMZ has posted pictures of Suleman’s house taken by her longtime friend and hairstylist who was concerned for the children when she went to style Suleman’s hair.

I will agree that some of the photos are troublesome, but the La Habra cops and the Orange County Department of Children and Family Services investigated and found that the children were safe.

One picture shows two children pooping in a portable training toilet in the backyard. We're told the plumbing in the house is shot, and only one toilet is operational. 

Another photo shows Octo just after she got her hair done. What's shocking is that she locked her kids in the bedroom by propping a chair against the door so they couldn't get out.

Yet another pic shows the children's bedroom, with 2 cribs and a mattress. Stephanie told cops some of the kids are forced to sleep on the floor.

And there's more ... a pic shows some of the kids in the backyard, barefoot, dirty and wearing no pants.

The part about the no pants doesn’t really seem to spell trouble to me. I often let my kids run around the house pantless if they wish.

I guess this all is most disturbing because Suleman is on public assistance and in serious money trouble but she is willing to spend five-hundred-dollars on a haircut.

Honestly, I can’t imagine what Suleman’s daily life must be like. It doesn’t really seem humanly possible to care for that many kids by oneself without them running around a little bit dirty once in a while.

Nadya Suleman, Octomom, Accepting Assistance Should Cause No Shame

MSNBC’s Today Moms has an interview with Octomom, Nadya Suleman, where she addresses the issue that she swore she would never go on food stamps, but apparently she had to a few months ago because of her finances.

Suleman explains that she did not want to go on assistance, but her children’s welfare was more important than her pride.

I feel saddened that Suleman is in a position where she feels ashamed.

Regardless of what people think of her choice and method to have such a large family, the reality is that she has fourteen children to feed and care for. There should be no shame in needing to ask for assistance.

“Backstage, Suleman said she's learned not to care what other people say about her, though she realizes many have an opinion."I don't ever, ever Google myself," she said. "I'm the wrong person to harass, to use as a bad example. I should actually be perceived as an inspiration to women, for having gone what I've been through and being sane."”

I think it’s brave of Suleman to admit what she sees as her failings and to recognize she has made some mistakes. But it seems as though she really is putting her children first while at the same time respecting her own self and needs.

"I have huge dreams, and I'm not letting them go."

For a woman who has been through so much and weathered so much negativity from the press and the public, I think there is much we can learn from her perseverance.

Octomom's Nude Photo Shoot: Yay or Nay?

I wrote about Nadya Suleman, aka Octomom, for Huffington Post today. She did a nearly-nude photo shoot for Closer magazine and I think it’s actually pretty cool. She’s representing mothers of the world and showing there’s nothing wrong with a certain-aged woman’s naked body.

I discovered the latest report about her photo shoot on Perezitos this morning. Of course, she’s receiving a lot of backlash for having done the photos.

It seems that a lot of people are saying her having taken these photos are the equivalent to having done porn, which she said she would never do, regardless of how broke she was.

The photos are totally tasteful and I don’t see why anyone would feel the need to trash her for posing. The only aside I would make is that the photos themselves are not well done. If anyone should be upset about anything, it’s that the magazine seemed to do a low-budget photo shoot.

What do you think? Is it harmful for a mother to pose nude or nearly-nude because of her children?

Talk to a Celebrity Momster (For a Small Fee...)

Only in the computer age. Now we all have the opportunity to speak with a real Celebrity Momster.

International Business Times reports: Want To Talk To A Celebrity? Dina Lohan, Octo-Mom, Danielle Staub And Others On Dial-A-Star.com.

So the idea is, you pay between $10 - $25 per minute to talk to your favorite reality stars.

Some of the Celebrity Momsters available are:

Talk to Dina Lohan on the phone for $25.00 a minute

Danielle Staub

Danielle Staub is known for being a "Real Housewife of New Jersey." Besides the reality show, Staub has also gone on to become a T.V. personality, author, singer and "adult performer." With such a hard-hitting resume, you can talk to Staub for a reasonable $18.00 a minute.

Nadya Suleman

Remember octo-mom? Nadya Suleman somehow has time to talk to fans with 14 kids running around. Ask her how she manages to do it for $12.00 a minute.

You can also speak with Lindsay Lohan's mother, Dina Lohan (who has the highest per minute rate of $25.00).

I’m really curious if anyone is going to pay these rates to chat with a “star.” I mean, a five-minute conversation with Dina Lohan will set you back $125!

Definitely not going to be a lot of parenting advice passing over the wires in that amount of time—not that that’s why someone would be calling.

Do you think people will pay these rates for a few minutes of their fave celeb’s time?