Madonna is the latest Celebrity Momster to join the it’s-so-hard-to-be-a-mom conversation.
I read readers’ comments with great interest and while there were a few voices of wisdom pointing out that Madonna has as much a right as “regular” moms to voice her difficulties, the majority of opinions were—how dare she go there?!
According to Celebrity Baby Scoop, Madonna told The Sun, "I'm not going to lie - it's hard work having four kids and doing all the work I do. Everybody has something to say about the way I live my life. At the end of the day I'm doing my best. If people don't like it, then that's really their problem. Sometimes I cope with it very well, sometimes it's a struggle. It's a challenge juggling everything - multi-tasking is my middle name."
Readers’ anger came from Madonna saying it’s hard raising four kids when she can hire all the help she needs and wants. They also point out that she can always make the choice to scale back on her work load. While all of this is true, I think we need to also notice that she is facing the same struggle all moms face.
How much work do we pursue as opposed to how much actual in-the-trenches child-rearing do we tackle? It’s a very real question for many moms—even those who don’t have the luxury of making the choice of working or not. Regardless of our financial situations, we are all struggling to balance the demands of work and motherhood.
And we need to take into account that Madonna also has a whole host of other concerns that us “regular” moms don’t. And I don’t think Madonna sounds like she’s complaining at all about her situation; she’s simply being honest.
It’s not to say that one situation—Celebrity Momster or regular mom— is better or worse than the other. It’s just to say that a lot of mothers have the same struggle at heart. How do I balance it all? How do I satisfy my greatest needs and desires as a person separate from being a mother?